The best mod ever

Seriously this gotta be the best mod ever... well, at least for now. Just look at the details and if you really wanna know, it takes 14 months to complete this one.

Next destination - Taiwan ~ Our honeymoon

Area :36,000 square kilometers
Population: 23 million
Capital : Taipei City
Language : Mandarin/Taiwanese/Hakka/Indigenous Languages
Religion : Buddhism/Taoism/Christian/Islam/Catholicism

Taiwan's total land area is only about 3,6000 square kilometers; it is shaped like a tobacco leaf that is narrow at both ends. It lies off the southeastern coast of mainland Asia, across the Taiwan Straits from Mainland China-- a solitary island on the western edge of the Pacific Ocean. To the north lies Japan and Okinawa, to the south is the Philippines. Many airlines fly to Taiwan, helping make it the perfect travel destination.
Taiwan lies on the western edge of the Pacific "rim of fire," and continuous tectonic movements have created majestic peaks, rolling hills and plains, basins, coastlines, and other wonders. Taiwan sees climates of many types: tropical, sub-tropical, and temperate, providing clear differentiation between the different seasons. There are about 18,400 species of wildlife on the island, with more than 20% belonging to rare or endangered species; among these are the land-locked salmon, Taiwan mountain goat, Formosan rock monkey, Formosan black bear, blue magpie, Mikado pheasant, Hsuehshan grass lizard, and many more.
The government has established 6 national parks and 13 national scenic areas to preserve Taiwan's best natural ecological environment and cultural sites. Take in the splendor and sheer heights of the cliffs at Taroko Gorge; take a ride on the Alishan train--one of only three mountain railways in the world--and experience the breathtaking sunset and sea of clouds; hike up to the summit of Northeast Asia's highest peak, Jade Mountain. You can also soak up the sun in Kending, Asia's version of Hawaii; stand at the edge of Sun Moon Lake; traipse through the East Rift Valley; or visit the offshore islands of Kinmen and Penghu. It's fun in capital letters as well as an awesome journey of natural discovery!
The cultural aspects also not to be missed. The blending of Hakka, Taiwanese, and mainland Chinese cultures has produced a rich plethora of cultural and social color. Whether it is religion, architecture, language, living habits, or food, it's just one big exciting melting pot! Food is the best representative of this cultural mixing and matching. Aside from cuisines from different parts of the mainland such as Zhejiang, Hunan, Guangdong, Yunnan, Shanghai, Beijing, Sichuan, and others, there is also the local Taiwanese cuisine as well as the local delicacies of each area.

Malaysian cat fight

Wedding Day ~ 28 July 2007

5 days and counting...

The last i could recall it was weeks or even months until our wedding... but now it's only 5 days left. Time flies. The biggest day of my life up to this point of time. In my heart, I'm excited. In my mind, I'm nervous. Who wouldn't, right? I'm just speechless.

Turning PC game into movie

http://www.apple.com/trailers/fox/hitman/trailera/

1-18-08

Go ahead, check it out... http://www.apple.com/trailers/paramount/11808/large.html

Life is like a glass of whisky

Neat... on the rock... with coke? I guess people changes. Now whisky is more enjoyable by all generations, not limited to middle age group who used to drink it neat or on the rock. Majority are drinking it with coke or the latest I heard, green tea. It is nice.. I tried it many times before. After glasses of whisky, including shots... have you ever told someone who mixed it with skyjuice, coke or green tea "It took them 12 years to take the water out from it, but it only takes you few seconds to add in the water"? I've seen many types of whisky on the market. Some are just a smart marketing strategies, some are very useful information to hardcore drinkers out there. Single malt, small batch, single barrel... the list goes on. I having one glass of whisky right now and it tastes real good. Why? Cause I mixed it with coke :-P Whatever it is, go and have a glass of whisky... life still goes on although you can never get the same mix that you had in the past.

bla bla bla bla

Yeap.. bla bla bla bla... after rounds and rounds of sake. Never underestimate the power of kamikaze pilot. In this case... the kamikaze drinker. Gd nite.

Eh...

WTF !!!

God is fair...

What do your kids learn at school today?

They learn A B C or 1 2 3 . . . used to at least

Now? Well, picture speaks a thousand words.

Nah... I'm sure this is the only rotten apple in the whole basket. Right?

Linkin Park - Bleed It Out

Yea here we go for the hundredth time,
Hand grenade pins in every line,
Throw 'em up and let something shine.
Going out of my fucking mind.
Filthy mouth, no excuse.
Find a new place to hang this noose.
String me up from atop these roofs.
Knot it tight so I won't get loose.
Truth is you can stop and stare,
Run myself out and no one cares.
Dug a trench out, laid down there
With a shovel up out to reach somewhere.
Yea someone pour it in,
Make it a dirt dance floor again.
Say your prayers and stomp it out,
When they bring that chorus in.

I bleed it out,
Digging deeper just to throw it away.
I bleed it out,
Digging deeper just to throw it away.
I bleed it out,
Digging deeper just to throw it away,
Just to throw it away,
Just to throw it away.

I bleed it out.
Go, stop the show.
Chop your words in a sloppy flow.
Shotgun I pump, lock and load,
Cock it back and then watch it go.
Mama help me, I've been cursed,
Death is rolling in every verse.
Candypaint on his brand new hearse.
Can't contain him, he knows he works.
I hope this hurts, I won't mind.
Doesn't matter how hard I try.

Half the words don't mean a thing,
And I know that I won't be satisfied.
So why, try ignoring him.
Make your dirt dance floor again.
Say your prayers and stomp it out,
When they bring that chorus in.

I bleed it out,
Digging deeper just to throw it away.
I bleed it out,
Digging deeper just to throw it away.
I bleed it out,
Digging deeper just to throw it away,
Just to throw it away,
Just to throw it away.

I bleed it out.
I've opened up these skies,
I'll make you face this.
I pulled myself so far,
I'll make you face this now.

I bleed it out,
Digging deeper just to throw it away.
I bleed it out,
Digging deeper just to throw it away.
I bleed it out,
Digging deeper just to throw it away,
Just to throw it away,
Just to throw it away.

I bleed it out,
Digging deeper just to throw it away.
I bleed it out,
Digging deeper just to throw it away.
I bleed it out,
Digging deeper just to throw it away,
Just to throw it away,
Just to throw it away.

I bleed it out.

House Map

Microsoft never stops at introducing new version of their popular Office. Right here is the Office Excel 2007. Pretty cool, huh? What I can do with it? Manage to draw a map from Summit, USJ to my home with it and it sure looks damn farking good too compare to previous release version of Office.
Mind you... I'm not promoting Office 2007 here. I'm just damn blardy satisfied with what it can do. Yea... just glad I didn't waste 2 hours of electricity charges while waiting for it to cook up a brand new recipe on my PC.

Is Tuesday a Happy Hour day ?

Fancy a "Stella Artois" ? Whatever that means... it sure tastes good for imported lager. Cheers! Today is a good day I suppose but it is not. It's could be worse but hey, who am I to complain... I'm just another slave @ dot.com. Everything suppose to be alrite but it is not. Everything suppose to be in place but it's everywhere but the place it suppose to be.

One thing for sure... listening to Linkin Park latest album "Minutes to Midnight" isn't helping the whole situation at all.

One thing never fails to set the mood right... a pint of Guinness. Whoa... I'm not blogging this at a bar @ Laundry (tho' I wish 2 someday). That reminds me... I was at Laundry the other day with my colleague. Something caught my attention at 3 o'clock. I turned my head slowly and there it was.. an OL* was sitting at the bar while her finger was lingering all over that smooth silky like surface while chatting with her friend and sipping her beer. Sometimes she would just giving it a little massage by tapping her fingertips on the larger matte surface. Her friend was obviously busy starring with full interest on what was the outcome of the OL* actions.

I guess that's what busy people like OL* & her friend would do, even at a bar like Laundry. What the heck... it's dinner time. It's not even dark yet. In the end... it's alrite I guess.

As for me, I'm busy poking on my soft touchy sexy companion, dressed in black... my O2 Atom.

* Office Lady (mind u, it only applies to any lady between 21 to 35... well, it depends on how young she looks at her age)

Somewhere Over The Rainbow... and the end of a colorful journey

Sorry to dissapoint you. A pot of gold is nowhere to be found.

Sony T20 DSC

Add a touch of technology to your lifestyle when you accessorize with the DSC-T20 Cyber-shot® digital camera. Boasting 8.1 megapixel resolution for greater detail in big prints and tight comps, the DSC-T20 delivers superb clarity to group photos and snapshots. The innovative Carl Zeiss® 3X optical zoom lens design brings the action close while the Face Detection feature optimizes natural tones in faces. With HD (high definition) output, photos can look even more spectacular when you share them with friends and family on HDTV screens. The Cyber-shot DSC-T20 is available in four colors including silver, black, white and pink.

What it has to offer :

Slim T Metal Body Design
Double Anti-blur (ISO3200 & Super Steady Shot)
HD Output
Approx. 8083k pixels (effective)
12.5" Super HADT CCD
Bionz Processor (The same processor as used in DSRL-A100)
3 x Optical Zoom
6 x Precision Digital
15.3 x Smart Zoom (Shooting in VGA)
5.1 x HD Smart Zoom (Shooting in HD)
Carl Zeiss® Vario Tessar® Lens
F: 3.5-4.3
Focal Length 6.33-19.0mm(38-114mm) (35mm equivalent)
W:Approx. 50cm ~ T:Approx. 50cm ~
Macro AF=W: Approx. 8cm ~ T: Approx. 25cm ~
Magnifying Glass mode AF=W:1cm-20cm
Approx 31MB Internal Memory
MS Duo MS PRO Duo
2.5" Clear Photo LCD Plus (230K dot)
Full Metal Body Material
USB 2.0 Full-Speed
Double Anti Blur
(ISO3200 & Super Steady Shot)
Supplied Accessories
Lithium Ion Battery
Battery Charger
Multi cable (USB DC-in AV-out)
Wrist Strap
PC Application

what's the story, midnite glory...

Darling, so there you are
With that look on your face
As if you're never hurt
As if you're never down
Shall I be the one for you
Who pinches you softly but sure
If frown is shown then
I will know that you are no dreamer

So let me come to you
Close as I wanted to be
Close enough for me
To feel your heart beating fast
And stay there as I whisper

How I loved your peaceful eyes on me
did you ever know
That I had mine on you

Darling, so share with me
Your love if you have enough
Your tears if your're holding back
Or pain if that's what it is
How can I let you know
I'm more than the dress and the voice
Just reach me out then
You will know that you're not dreaming

Mid-life Crisis + Food + Dead Crow + Heineken + a pile of poopoo

Mid-Life Crisis? Maybe, maybe not. Who cares anymore. Life can be beautiful if you just let it be. For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. It's a strange feeling lately... I had a vision of hundred... thousands of crow just drop dead from the sky. Not sure what it means but if crow suppose to bring bad luck and it just fell dead from the sky... does it means the bad luck is gone? dead? no more hovering over me or anyone else? Bird flu? Argh.... so much for epidemic disease.

Ok.. ok... back to life........................ [I know I like to use a lot of . but I just can't help it. It's so round & beautiful :) Hehehe ]

Enjoy life as it is... Spice it up a little bit with salt & pepper. I even like it spicy. The hotter the better :) Hmm, am I talking about food now? Guess I should stop before I go beyond the "U" turn. If you want to know what I think... Enjoy it while it's hot. Spicy food taste best when it's sizzling hot. Then quench ur thirst with iced cold heineken. It gotta be heineken coz it's smooth. I like it smooth.

When They're Both Stressed

Uptight men drink alcohol and invade another country.
Uptight women eat chocolate and invade shopping
centres.

Think about it...

row... row... row your boat, gently up the sky...

Laundry Bar @ Curve

Experience it yourself .. just be there after 10pm unless you like retro :)

A great book for couples or just to know more about ...

10 things in golf that sound simply..well dirty ..lolz

1- Look at the size of his putter.

2- Oh, dang, my shaft's all bent.

3- You really whacked the hell out of that sucker.

4- After 18 holes I can barely walk.

5- My hands are so sweaty I can't get a good grip.

6- Lift your head and spread your legs.

7- You have a nice stroke, but your follow through leaves a lot to be desired.

8- Just turn your back and drop it.

9- Hold up. I've got to wash my balls.

10- Damn, I missed the hole again.

If you think you're in deep shit.. think again

Life is not fair... I know. U know. So why do we still take things for granted? Why do we still put our hopes so high even when we have fell down multiple times before? Don't we ever learn from our mistakes? Do we just forget about the past without gaining some painful humiliating experience, just so that we will remember the road we took to get where we are today? When you lie down by the roadside after an accident, do passerby offer a helping hand or do they take advantage of the situation? Imagine your diamond studded gold watch, your wallet full of crisp hundred dollar bills or your precious platinum ring.

Ok... to make things easier to understand. Just look at the pic ;-)

Dixie Chicks - Not Ready To Make Nice

Forgive, sounds good.
Forget, I'm not sure I could.
They say time heals everything,
But I'm still waiting

I'm through, with doubt,
There's nothing left for me to figure out,
I've paid a price, and i'll keep paying

I'm not ready to make nice,
I'm not ready to back down,
I'm still mad as hell
And I don't have time
To go round and round and round
It's too late to make it right
I probably wouldn't if I could
Cause I'm mad as hell
Can't bring myself to do what it is
You think I should

I know you said
Why can't you just get over it,
It turned my whole world around
and i kind of like it

I made by bed, and I sleep like a baby,
With no regrets and I don't mind saying,
It's a sad sad story
That a mother will teach her daughter
that she ought to hate a perfect stranger.
And how in the world
Can the words that I said
Send somebody so over the edge
That they'd write me a letter
Saying that I better shut up and sing
Or my life will be over

I'm not ready to make nice,
I'm not ready to back down,
I'm still mad as hell
And I don't have time
To go round and round and round
It's too late to make it right
I probably wouldn't if I could
Cause I'm mad as hell
Can't bring myself to do what it is
You think I should

I'm not ready to make nice,
I'm not ready to back down,
I'm still mad as hell
And I don't have time
To go round and round and round
It's too late to make it right
I probably wouldn't if I could
Cause I'm mad as hell
Can't bring myself to do what it is
You think I should

Forgive, sounds good.
Forget, I'm not sure I could.
They say time heals everything,
But I'm still waiting

Are u ready for marriage?

You Are 65% Ready for Marriage

You are almost ready for marriage, and you could be ready to be engaged. You're still figuring out the details of your ideal relationship!

Are You Ready for Marriage?

2 of different view

A lorry carrying 2 tanks of water for a village up the hill past thru the same road everyday for 5 years... the left tank has been leaking for years and only half full when reach the village. The right is forever full. Which do u think the villagers will appreciate more?

I speak with beauty

Kukatakan dengan indah
Dengan terbuka
Hatiku hampa
Sepertinya luka
Menghampirinya

Kau beri rasa
Yang berbeda
Mungkin kusalah
Mengartikannya
Yang kurasa cinta

Tetapi hatiku
Selalu meninggikanmu
Terlalu meninggikanmu
Selalu meninggikanmu

Kau hancurkan hatiku
Hancurkan lagi
Kau hancurkan hatiku
Tuk melihatmu

Kau terangi jiwaku
Kau redupkan lagih
Kau hancurkan hatiku
Tuk melihatmu

Membuatku terjatuh
Dan terjatuh lagi

Membuatku merasakan
Yang tlah terjadi
Semua yang terbaik
Dan terlewati
Semua yang terhenti
Tanpa kuakhiri

When it's time to let go.. just let it go.. and never regret

Saatnya ku berkata mungkin yang terakhir kalinya
Sudahlah lepaskan semua kuyakin inilah waktunya
Mungkin saja kau bukan yang dulu lagi
Mungkin saja rasa itu telah pergi

Dan mungkin bila nanti kita kan bertemu lagi
Satu pintaku jangan kau coba tanyakan kembali
Rasa yang kutinggal mati
Seperti hari kemarin saat semua disini

Dan bila hatimu termenung bangun dari mimpi2mu
Membuka hatimu yang dulu cerita saat bersamaku
Mungkin saja kau bukan yang dulu lagi
Mungkin saja rasa itu telah pergi

Dan mungkin bila nanti kita kan bertemu lagi
Satu pintaku jangan kau coba tanyakan kembali
Rasa yang kutinggal mati
Seperti hari kemarin saat semua disini

Tak usah kau tanyakan lagi simpan untukmu sendiri
Semua sesal yang kau cari semua rasa yang kau beri

Uncovering the truth...

As I was recovering from a mild headache after few rounds of guinness and single malt the night before, I begin to wonder about the definition of "mid-life crisis" from my previous post. Could it just be an excuse for someone who's tired of living everyday life as a routine and wanted to take a break . What is the best excuse can you come up with when out of a sudden, you feel like
1.buying an expensive watch
2. change car, change job
3. frequent visit to your favorite bar
4. being childish

Yes! Blame it on mid-life crisis. Isn't life wonderful when you reach 30s? Especially mid to late 30s? :D

This is the first chapter of uncovering the truth... (maybe)

p/s - seriously guys, don't drink and drive if u can. Just saw a horrible accident as I was driving back home from Laundry around 2AM after mamak. So morale of the story is... don't drink and drive, if you have to drive, drop by your local mamak store for some maggi goreng and teh O ais limau to freshen up before you head home.

Single Malt

Been there...done that...
Next to come...

So much for friends

How much can u rely on a friend...

我的朋友 My Friends Kawanku

This is kinda sensitive for some people... anyway have fun laughing about it if you feel like it :-D

Our very own version of Hokkien Bond


Fast & Furious Hokkien Drift

Mid-life crisis ?

What the hell is mid-life crisis?

A mid-life crisis is an emotional state of doubt and anxiety in which a person becomes uncomfortable with the realization that life is halfway over. It commonly involves reflection on what the individual has done with his or her life up to that point, often with feelings that not enough was accomplished. The individuals experiencing such may feel boredom with their lives, jobs, or their partners, and may feel a strong desire to make changes in these areas. The condition is also called the beginning of individuation, a process of self-actualization that continues on to death. The condition is most common ranging from the ages of 35-50, and affects men and women differently. Mid life crises last about 3-10 years in men and 2-5 years in women, but length may vary in some people.

During middle age, many changing factors can affect personality development. These factors include:
work/career
marriage/spousal relationships
adult children
aging parents/death of parents
physical changes associated with aging

There is some question whether a "mid-life crisis" is any different from "a crisis occurring in mid-life." One study found that only 23% of participants had what they called a "mid-life crisis," but in digging deeper, only 8% of the total said the crisis was associated with realizations about aging. The balance (15%) had major life experiences or transitions (divorce, loss of a job, etc.) in middle age, but they could have happened at any other stage of life. The same research found that the average age at onset of a self-described "mid-life crisis" was 46.

Other research proposes that triggers for mid-life crisis differ between men and women, with male mid-life crisis more likely to be caused by work issues.

Characteristics
Certain characteristics displayed by individuals experiencing a mid-life crisis often include but are not limited to:
search of an undefined dream or goal
desire to achieve a feeling of youthfulness
acquiring of unusual or expensive items such as clothing, muscle cars, jewellery, gadgets, etc.
paying extra special attention to physical appearance
need to spend more time alone or with certain peers
a deep sense of remorse for goals not accomplished
an underlying desire to initiate new sexual partnerships

Coin Flipping

The historical origin of coin flipping is the interpretation of a chance outcome as the expression of divine will.

blink ! blink !

I love you... I love you not...

I love you... I love you not... I love you... I love you not...

I pity the flower. What did it do to deserve such punishment? Why do you want to deny it from its beauty? Each time you're undecided, you take away its beauty. Have some mercy…

How to be a good wife...

Scan of an article from Housekeeping Magazine on how to be a good wife. Ladies, do take note.

Love is friendship set on fire

When you set something on fire, it will burn. It will keep burning till it can't burn anymore... till everything has turn into a black chunk or ashes. This can't be reversed. It can't be undone. What's done is done. A friendship will never be friendship again once you set it on fire. It felt good for a short while but things will eventually fades away. Sometimes it’s unintentional to start the fire in a friendship. It’s unintentional to fall in love with someone in your circle of friends. Who are we to control the fire of love created by the far more superior beings, with one sole purpose… for us to control it or to let it burn our friendship to ashes and let the ashes be blown away by the wind. What’s lost can never be found. What’s burnt will leave a scar for life.

As a wise man always says, “Don’t play with fire if you don’t want to get burn”.

"Its hard to love someone who loves someone else. You have to ignore the pain and swallow your pride just to be a friend. But somehow in the end, its all worth it cause friendship lasts longer than love"

Don't drink & Drive

Bangsar Seafood Garden Restaurant's Eat All You Can

The Bangsar Seafood Garden Restaurant's Eat All You Can (EAC) is Back Again!!!

With over 100 dishes to choose from!!

Alcatraz ER - Japanese Prison theme Restaurant

A truly bizarre novelty restaurant, “Alcatraz ER” is labeled the “Shibuya Medical Prison.” The owners must have been indecisive when picking the concept- I can’t tell if it’s meant to be a prison, a hospital, or a medieval dungeon. But who cares? This just adds to the eccentric appeal, as far as I’m concerned.

Upon arrival, you have to state your blood-type to enter (I don’t know mine, which made things confusing.) You are then handcuffed by girls in nurse-outfits (mmm, kinky!) who lead you to your “cell”- a dingy room which resembles a medieval dungeon.

Cocktails with names like “Influenza” and Acute Mental Stabilizer” are served in test tubes, or you can even drink from a hospital drip. Meals are delivered in those metal dishes surgeons use during operations. The food isn’t so tasty but presumably it’s better than actual prison food.

Dinner is occasionally interrupted to an escaped lunatic in a Jason mask, who runs around the place, terrorizing customers, (but stops short of bum-raping men in the toilets.)

While I was there, an unsuspecting birthday girl on another table was thrown the over the knee of a maniacal doctor, who prodded her arse with a giant syringe while she squealed. I’m sure you can tell it’s a very classy establishment!

The food and drinks in this place ain’t cheap, but it’s worth a trip just for the novelty value.

World's Most Expensive Restaurant

How much are you prepared to pay for the perfect steak? A beefsteak restaurant in Tokyo has been chosen as the world's most expensive restaurant for the second year in a row. The average steak dinner and bottle of house wine there can set you back as much as 500 US dollars.

Aragawa is a little steakhouse that serves Sanda beef, a type of Kobe beef, which can only be found in the Hyogo Prefecture in western Japan.



A dish of beefsteak starts at more than 400 US dollars. Together with hors d'oeuvre and wine, the average cost per person costs about 550 US dollars.

Rather than the usual ways of serving steak--rare, medium, and well done--the chef offers ten choices.

12:28 AM

That's the time I started this post. What time it ends is another matter. The room is dimmer, the music is softer, my typing rate slightly faster (hopefully no error) after a 1759 Foreign Extra. My eye lids are getting heavier by the minutes. Yes, my concern is I'm not able to finish this post before I collapse and go into slumberland. Ok.. now I have a problem... what to post? Do we have to have a topic for every post on our blogs? Can't we just blog whatever we like and whatever that comes to our mind that instant? Hmm.. if only we can pull out each problem we have from our head and throw it at the moon.. hoping everything will be ok the next day. Don't you wish for that too? I wish for snow in Malaysia. Well, four seasons will be perfect. I feel so tired... I'm too tired to think about what's making me tired everyday. How I wish I can pack everything up and tie it to a rocket and let it fly to the moon. Yea.. I know soon the moon will be worse than your neighbourhood recycling center. I'm not stereotyping here. Of course there are some really clean beautiful recycling center, like those in Japan.. I think :) Heck, pollute the moon and save the earth. We all have to make sacrifices sometimes. So what's wrong with sacrificing the moon when it's like 385,000 km away from us. Wow.. that's a lot of distance to cover if you wanna fly there yourself to deliver your problems personally. For every question, there isn't always an answer... but there is always a solution. True? I don't know. We're not talking logic here. We're only talking crap. Total nonsense. Ok.. i'm done here.. let me go shoot a tiger now. Ciao.

Asian Horror

Linkin Park - What I've Done

In this farewell,
There is no blood,
There is no alibi,
Cause I’ve drawn regret,
From the truth,
Of a thousands lies,
So let mercy come and wash away…

What I’ve Done,
I’ll face myself,
To cross out what I’ve become,
Erase myself,
And let go of what I’ve done…

Put to rest,
What you thought of me
While, I clean this slate,
With the hands,
Of uncertainty,
So let mercy come,
And wash away…

What I’ve Done,
I’ll face myself,
To cross out what I’ve become,
Erase myself,
And let go of what I’ve done…

For what I’ve done,
I start again,
And whatever pain may come,
Today this ends,
I’m forgiving what I’ve done…

I’ll face myself,
To cross out what I’ve become,
Erase myself,
And let go of what I’ve done…

What I’ve Done,
What I’ve Done,
Forgiving what I’ve done…

Invisible Love

While walking down the street, I heard an old lady say, “Ive been in love with the same man for almost 50 years.” I was touched.

But then she said, “I wish he knew.”

Those of you who are not married yet...

Recently I got this interesting article from a friend who has gone thru a tough time waiting at The junction, and finally make up his mind after waiting there for frickin 3 months. It's a good read...
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Those of u who are not married yet, this is especially for you! And those who are, u can review your married life based on these...so please take time off n go through this because it really makes sense.

When it comes to making the decision about choosing a life partner, no one wants to make a mistake. Yet, with a divorce rate of close to 50 percent, it appears that many are making serious mistakes in their approach to finding Mr./Ms. Right!

If you ask most couples who are engaged why they're getting married, they'll say: "We're in love". I believe it’s the #1 mistake people make when they date. Choosing a life partner should never be based on love (alone). Though this may not sound politically correct, there's a profound truth here. Love (alone) is not the basis for getting married. Rather, love is the result of a good marriage. When the other ingredients are right, then love will come. Let me say it again: You can't build a lifetime relationship on love alone. You need a lot MORE!

Here are 5 questions you must ask yourself if you're serious about finding AND keeping a life partner.

QUESTION # 1: Do we share a common life purpose? Why is this so important? Let me put it this way: If you're married for 20 to 30 years, that's a long time to live with someone. What do you plan to do with each other all that time? Travel, eat, sex and jog together? You need to share something deeper and more meaningful. You need a common life purpose. Two things can happen in a marriage. 1. You can grow together, or 2. You can grow apart. 50 % of the people out there are growing apart. To make a marriage work, you need to know what you want out of life - bottom line - and marry someone who wants the same thing. If the so & so you're in love with; doesn't want the same thing you do; you might as well opt out of it now than when its too late.

QUESTION # 2: Do I feel safe expressing my feelings and thoughts with this person? This question goes to the core of the quality of your relationship. Feeling safe means you can communicate openly with this person. The basis of having good communication is trust. i.e. trust that I won't get "punished" or hurt for expressing my honest thoughts and feelings. A colleague of mine defines an abusive person as someone with whom you feel afraid to express your thoughts and feelings. Be honest with yourself on this one. Make sure you feel emotionally safe with the person you plan to marry.

QUESTION # 3: Is your potential mate someone who is refined and sensitive? How can you test? Here are some suggestions: Do they work on personal growth on a regular basis? Are they serious about improving themselves? A teacher of mine defines a good person as "someone who is always striving to be good and do the right." So ask about your significant other: What do they do with their time? Is this person materialistic? Usually a materialistic person is not someone whose top priority is character refinement. There are essentially two types of people in this world: People who are dedicated to personal growth and people who are dedicated to seeking comfort. Someone whose goal life is to be comfortable will put personal comfort ahead of doing the right thing. You need to know that before walking down the aisle.

QUESTION # 4: How does he/she treat other people? The one most important thing that makes any relationship work is the ability to give. By giving, we mean the ability to give another person pleasure. Ask: Is this someone who enjoys giving pleasure to others or are they wrapped up in themselves and self-absorbed? To measure this, think about the following: 1. How do they treat people whom they do not have to be nice to, such as waiters, bellboy, taxi driver, etc.? 2. How do they treat parents and siblings? 3. Do they have gratitude and appreciation? 4. Do they show respect? If they don’t have gratitude for the people who have given them everything, you cannot expect that they'll have gratitude for you-who can’t do nearly as much for them! 5. Do they gossip and speak badly about others? Someone who gossips cannot be someone who loves others. You can be sure that someone who treats others poorly will eventually treat you poorly as well.

QUESTION # 5: Is there anything I'm hoping to change about this person after we're married? Too many people make the mistake of marrying someone with the intention of trying to "improve" them after they're married. As a friend of mine puts it, "You can probably expect someone to change after marriage and for the worse!" If you cannot fully accept this person the way they are now, then you are not ready to marry them. There is no point in putting restrictions on your life partner. If you love him/her you will accept him/her as they are.

In conclusion, selecting your partner doesn’t have to be difficult & treacherous. The key is to try leading a little more with your head and less with your heart. It pays to be as objective as possible when you are selecting, to be sure to ask questions that will help you get to the key issues. Falling in love is a great feeling, but when you wake up with a ring on your finger, you don’t want to find yourself in trouble because you didn't do your homework.

Re-post (When young hearts fall out of love)

When young people fall in love, they make promises of eternal love and devotion. They make plans for beautiful wedding. They create dreams of a happy marriage and wonderful children. They live in the utter happiness and contentment of being another person’s other half.But when they fall out of love, they fight and declare that they would marry monkeys rather than speak to the former loved ones.There are so many reasons why people break up. Breaking up can also be easy, messy or painful.The most infuriating break-up has got to be when one party has been cheated or betrayed. What remain are the anger and the hate.But the most painful break-up is probably when one person is still in love. Suddenly, all the promises, plans, dreams and memories just make you sad. The world becomes depressingly bleak and it gets hard even to eat and almost impossible to sleep. Nothing can make you happy again.The sad love songs now hurt you even more. And you are sympathetic and emotional whenever you see a lover breaks the other’s heart on TV series.You even cry when your favorite cousin tells you that he is leaving his girlfriend because you feel he is unsympathetic towards you. Even though you know that his relationship has nothing to do with yours, and you know that it is ridiculous to be offended by him, you are still upset.You feel so down that you just don’t know what to do with yourself. You start acting very strangely, but you don’t really realize it because nothing seems real to you. The phone rings and rings, but you don’t bother to pick it up because you don’t feel like talking to anyone.You feel so depressed remembering that just a few days ago, when the phone rang, you picked it up not knowing that your heart would be broken at the end of the conversation.It is so awful knowing that the one you love will no longer be phoning you.It’s even worse to know that the one who is now your “ex” (just the sound of the word brings tears to your eyes) would be phoning someone else, someone who has prematurely taken your place and stolen your sunshine. And you suddenly realize that you are just another broken-hearted fool.You know that it was nobody’s fault and that it “just happened”. You know that nobody meant to hurt you but if you knew all that, why do you still feel as if somebody had just stabbed you in the heart and left the knife there?Some people handle pain better but most people can’t cope with disappointment and start to do strange things. Oftentimes, people do the things that broken-hearted youngsters do in novels and movies.Some youngsters cannot deal with disappointment. Suzi consumed a whole bottle of sleeping pills when her fiancé broke their engagement because he fell in love with another girl.After his girlfriend left him, Jeffrey got into some bad company who taught him to drink.There can be no doubt that there are probably some teenagers out there who even turn to drugs when their pledge of love and loyalty is turned down.Disappointment and frustration leave unhealthy consequences. Because of the fear of being rejected again, some people stay clear of the opposite sex altogether.The thing to do right after a break-up is probably to widen one’s circle of friends. Expand your horizons. After all, a problem is only another opportunity knocking on the door!So why not forget all your troubles and take advantage of the freedom and extra time to make more friends and do more constructive things?Remember all the time you spent on the telephone hanging onto every syllable uttered by your darling? And all the weekends you spent going out on dates?How about all the precious study or working hours you misused writing love letters?Now that your love has left, you’re probably left with too much spare time. You can either fill them by rereading love letters or you can start reading that 400-page novel that you never had time for.The end of a serious relationship leaves an enormous void in the heart. There will be scars that are hard to heal. It takes great effort to go on as usual, and even greater effort to start rearranging one’s life.So, if you had just recently checked into Heartbreak Hotel, don’t make it a permanent stay.Get out as soon as you can. You will see a lot of great things when you walk out the door.

originally posted on Jan 30th 2005