Those of you who are not married yet...

Recently I got this interesting article from a friend who has gone thru a tough time waiting at The junction, and finally make up his mind after waiting there for frickin 3 months. It's a good read...
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Those of u who are not married yet, this is especially for you! And those who are, u can review your married life based on these...so please take time off n go through this because it really makes sense.

When it comes to making the decision about choosing a life partner, no one wants to make a mistake. Yet, with a divorce rate of close to 50 percent, it appears that many are making serious mistakes in their approach to finding Mr./Ms. Right!

If you ask most couples who are engaged why they're getting married, they'll say: "We're in love". I believe it’s the #1 mistake people make when they date. Choosing a life partner should never be based on love (alone). Though this may not sound politically correct, there's a profound truth here. Love (alone) is not the basis for getting married. Rather, love is the result of a good marriage. When the other ingredients are right, then love will come. Let me say it again: You can't build a lifetime relationship on love alone. You need a lot MORE!

Here are 5 questions you must ask yourself if you're serious about finding AND keeping a life partner.

QUESTION # 1: Do we share a common life purpose? Why is this so important? Let me put it this way: If you're married for 20 to 30 years, that's a long time to live with someone. What do you plan to do with each other all that time? Travel, eat, sex and jog together? You need to share something deeper and more meaningful. You need a common life purpose. Two things can happen in a marriage. 1. You can grow together, or 2. You can grow apart. 50 % of the people out there are growing apart. To make a marriage work, you need to know what you want out of life - bottom line - and marry someone who wants the same thing. If the so & so you're in love with; doesn't want the same thing you do; you might as well opt out of it now than when its too late.

QUESTION # 2: Do I feel safe expressing my feelings and thoughts with this person? This question goes to the core of the quality of your relationship. Feeling safe means you can communicate openly with this person. The basis of having good communication is trust. i.e. trust that I won't get "punished" or hurt for expressing my honest thoughts and feelings. A colleague of mine defines an abusive person as someone with whom you feel afraid to express your thoughts and feelings. Be honest with yourself on this one. Make sure you feel emotionally safe with the person you plan to marry.

QUESTION # 3: Is your potential mate someone who is refined and sensitive? How can you test? Here are some suggestions: Do they work on personal growth on a regular basis? Are they serious about improving themselves? A teacher of mine defines a good person as "someone who is always striving to be good and do the right." So ask about your significant other: What do they do with their time? Is this person materialistic? Usually a materialistic person is not someone whose top priority is character refinement. There are essentially two types of people in this world: People who are dedicated to personal growth and people who are dedicated to seeking comfort. Someone whose goal life is to be comfortable will put personal comfort ahead of doing the right thing. You need to know that before walking down the aisle.

QUESTION # 4: How does he/she treat other people? The one most important thing that makes any relationship work is the ability to give. By giving, we mean the ability to give another person pleasure. Ask: Is this someone who enjoys giving pleasure to others or are they wrapped up in themselves and self-absorbed? To measure this, think about the following: 1. How do they treat people whom they do not have to be nice to, such as waiters, bellboy, taxi driver, etc.? 2. How do they treat parents and siblings? 3. Do they have gratitude and appreciation? 4. Do they show respect? If they don’t have gratitude for the people who have given them everything, you cannot expect that they'll have gratitude for you-who can’t do nearly as much for them! 5. Do they gossip and speak badly about others? Someone who gossips cannot be someone who loves others. You can be sure that someone who treats others poorly will eventually treat you poorly as well.

QUESTION # 5: Is there anything I'm hoping to change about this person after we're married? Too many people make the mistake of marrying someone with the intention of trying to "improve" them after they're married. As a friend of mine puts it, "You can probably expect someone to change after marriage and for the worse!" If you cannot fully accept this person the way they are now, then you are not ready to marry them. There is no point in putting restrictions on your life partner. If you love him/her you will accept him/her as they are.

In conclusion, selecting your partner doesn’t have to be difficult & treacherous. The key is to try leading a little more with your head and less with your heart. It pays to be as objective as possible when you are selecting, to be sure to ask questions that will help you get to the key issues. Falling in love is a great feeling, but when you wake up with a ring on your finger, you don’t want to find yourself in trouble because you didn't do your homework.

Re-post (When young hearts fall out of love)

When young people fall in love, they make promises of eternal love and devotion. They make plans for beautiful wedding. They create dreams of a happy marriage and wonderful children. They live in the utter happiness and contentment of being another person’s other half.But when they fall out of love, they fight and declare that they would marry monkeys rather than speak to the former loved ones.There are so many reasons why people break up. Breaking up can also be easy, messy or painful.The most infuriating break-up has got to be when one party has been cheated or betrayed. What remain are the anger and the hate.But the most painful break-up is probably when one person is still in love. Suddenly, all the promises, plans, dreams and memories just make you sad. The world becomes depressingly bleak and it gets hard even to eat and almost impossible to sleep. Nothing can make you happy again.The sad love songs now hurt you even more. And you are sympathetic and emotional whenever you see a lover breaks the other’s heart on TV series.You even cry when your favorite cousin tells you that he is leaving his girlfriend because you feel he is unsympathetic towards you. Even though you know that his relationship has nothing to do with yours, and you know that it is ridiculous to be offended by him, you are still upset.You feel so down that you just don’t know what to do with yourself. You start acting very strangely, but you don’t really realize it because nothing seems real to you. The phone rings and rings, but you don’t bother to pick it up because you don’t feel like talking to anyone.You feel so depressed remembering that just a few days ago, when the phone rang, you picked it up not knowing that your heart would be broken at the end of the conversation.It is so awful knowing that the one you love will no longer be phoning you.It’s even worse to know that the one who is now your “ex” (just the sound of the word brings tears to your eyes) would be phoning someone else, someone who has prematurely taken your place and stolen your sunshine. And you suddenly realize that you are just another broken-hearted fool.You know that it was nobody’s fault and that it “just happened”. You know that nobody meant to hurt you but if you knew all that, why do you still feel as if somebody had just stabbed you in the heart and left the knife there?Some people handle pain better but most people can’t cope with disappointment and start to do strange things. Oftentimes, people do the things that broken-hearted youngsters do in novels and movies.Some youngsters cannot deal with disappointment. Suzi consumed a whole bottle of sleeping pills when her fiancé broke their engagement because he fell in love with another girl.After his girlfriend left him, Jeffrey got into some bad company who taught him to drink.There can be no doubt that there are probably some teenagers out there who even turn to drugs when their pledge of love and loyalty is turned down.Disappointment and frustration leave unhealthy consequences. Because of the fear of being rejected again, some people stay clear of the opposite sex altogether.The thing to do right after a break-up is probably to widen one’s circle of friends. Expand your horizons. After all, a problem is only another opportunity knocking on the door!So why not forget all your troubles and take advantage of the freedom and extra time to make more friends and do more constructive things?Remember all the time you spent on the telephone hanging onto every syllable uttered by your darling? And all the weekends you spent going out on dates?How about all the precious study or working hours you misused writing love letters?Now that your love has left, you’re probably left with too much spare time. You can either fill them by rereading love letters or you can start reading that 400-page novel that you never had time for.The end of a serious relationship leaves an enormous void in the heart. There will be scars that are hard to heal. It takes great effort to go on as usual, and even greater effort to start rearranging one’s life.So, if you had just recently checked into Heartbreak Hotel, don’t make it a permanent stay.Get out as soon as you can. You will see a lot of great things when you walk out the door.

originally posted on Jan 30th 2005

Life is like a box of chocolate

You'll never know which one you're going to get...

Hunted Tunnel

Go to the link if you don't believe me

http://content2.totallycrap.com/media/tunnelaccident/

Till death do us a apart...

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Someone was murdered...

Alleycat

Shark Wannabe

Silver car anyone?

Supposedly this silver Audi A8 isn’t just silver in color…it’s MADE of silver. That's what $2.50 a gallon gas can buy.

Evolution of Man

be careful what you Google for

Proof of Global Warming

Look out below

“Incoming!”

Some creative paintings

Reduce your risk of alcohol-related injury: stay drunk

Weekend drinkers are more likely to injure themselves when hammered than full-time pro boozehounds, Swiss researchers have found.
Admissions to the emergency department at Laussanne University Hospital over an 18-month period from pool cue related mishaps and the like were much more frequent amongst less committed schnapps bingers. The pattern was the same for both men and women.

Some thought provoking quotes

"When you sit with a nice girl for two hours, it seems like two minutes. When you sit on a hot stove for two minutes, it seems like two hours that's relativity." -- Albert Einstein
"There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle." --A. Einstein
A stupid man's report of what a clever man says can never be accurate, because he unconsciously translates what he hears into something he can understand.
Do not fear to be eccentric in opinion, for every opinion now accepted was once eccentric.
It is a waste of energy to be angry with a man who behaves badly, just as it is to be angry with a car that won't go.
The greatest challenge to any thinker is stating the problem in a way that will allow a solution.
The time you enjoy wasting is not wasted time.
We can evade reality, but we cannot evade the consequences of evading reality.
Price is what you pay. Value is what you get.
The greatest risk is not taking one.
Managers do things right. Leaders do the right thing.
In business, the competition will bite you if you keep running; if you stand still, they will swallow you .
God gives every bird its food, but he does not throw it into the nest.
You don't drown by falling in the water; you drown by staying there.
Even if you're on the right track you'll get run over if you just sit there.
If you cut grass without removing its root, it will flourish once again when the spring wind blows.
Bulls make money. Bears make money. Pigs get slaughtered.
There are many ways of going forward, but only one way of standing still.

To:God... From: the Dog

Dear God: Why do humans smell the flowers, but seldom, if ever, smell one another?

Dear God: When we get to heaven, can we sit on your couch? Or is it still the same old story?

Dear God: Why are there cars named after the jaguar, the cougar, the mustang, the colt, the stingray, and the rabbit, but not ONE named for a dog? How often do you see a cougar riding around? We do love a nice ride! Would it be so hard to rename the "Chrysler Eagle" the " Chrysler Beagle"?

Dear God: If a dog barks his head off in the forest and no human hears him, is he still a bad dog?

Dear God: We dogs can understand human verbal instructions, hand signals, whistles, horns, clickers, beeper s, scent ID's, electromagnetic energy fields, and Frisbee flight paths. What do humans understand?

Dear God: More meatballs, less spaghetti, please.

Dear God: Are there mailmen in Heaven? If there are, will I have to apologize?

Dear God: I will try to do better so I can go to heaven. I promise...
1. I will not eat the cats' food before they eat it or after they throw it up.
2. I will not roll on dead seagulls, fish, crabs, etc., just because I like the way they smell.
3 I will not munch on "leftovers" in the kitty litter box, although they are tasty.
4. The diaper pail is not a cookie jar.
5. The sofa is not a 'face towel'. Neither are Mom and Dad's laps.
6. The garbage collector is not stealing our stuff.
7. My head does not belong in the refrigerator.
8. I will not bite the officer' s hand when he reaches in for Mom's driver's license and registration.
9. I will not play tug-of-war with Dad's underwear when he's on the toilet.
10. Sticking my nose into someone's crotch is an unacceptable way of saying "hello".
11. I don't need to suddenly stand straight up when I'm under the coffee table.
12. I must shake the rainwater out of my fur before entering the house - not after.
13. I will not throw up in the car.
14. I will not come in from outside and immediately drag my butt.
15. I will not sit in the middle of the living room and lick my crotch when we have company.
16. The cat is not a 'squeaky toy' so when I play with him and he makes that noise, it's usually not a good thing.
And, finally, My last question . . .

Dear God: Why do humans only have 10 Commandments and dogs have 16?

P.S. When I get to Heaven may I have my testicles back?

A drop of rain

A drop of water is all we need to start a new life. A little tiny organism will evolves into something more complex and this process will go on and on till there's life form with soul.

View results from: Dictionary soul /soʊl/ Pronunciation Key - Show Spelled Pronunciation[sohl] Pronunciation Key - Show IPA Pronunciation, –noun
1. the principle of life, feeling, thought, and action in humans, regarded as a distinct entity separate from the body, and commonly held to be separable in existence from the body; the spiritual part of humans as distinct from the physical part.

Isn't rain a wonderful thing?

Some of the Quote worth blogging for

“The hardest part about being friends, is loving you so much”

“What is the most painful is to love someone and never find the courage to let the person know how you feel”

“Love is when you shed a tear and still want him, it's when he ignores you and you still love him, it's when he loves another girl but you still smile and say I'm happy for you, when all you really do is cry”

“Its hard to love someone who loves someone else. You have to ignore the pain and swallow your pride just to be a friend. But somehow in the end, its all worth it cause friendship lasts longer than love”

... more to come...

The life of a writer

Which is which

Is it sunset? Is it sunrise? I guess it doesn't matter. I just want to see either one. Now who the heck will wake up so early in the morning on weekends to accompany me watch this amazing event? Me, myself & I.

Love... Hate

How can someone who draw this can love and hate at same time? What triggers him to do so? It's so beautiful on the left but he just lost it when it comes to the right side. I guess things do change in a blink of the eye.

Deja Vu ...

The illusion of having previously experienced something actually being encountered for the first time.

Workplace Violence : Anger Management

Some statistics on workplace violence :

1 in 4 workers are attacked, threatened or harassed each year, costing:
$13.5 billion in medical costs / year
500,000 employees missing 1,750,000 days work / year
41% increased stress levels

Anger Management
The goal of anger management is to reduce both your emotional feelings and the physiological arousal that anger causes. You can't get rid of, or avoid, the things or the people that enrage you, nor can you change them, but you can learn to control your reactions.

Or... just watch this movie.

Same Ol' Beer

A bottle of beer or a mug of beer. 4 mugs of beer or 1 jug of beer. What's the different? It's all the same. Heineken, Tiger or Carlsberg... it's only beer. One or two is good among friends especially during happy hours. Too many will cause problems such as unable to drive home safely. Not to mention sleepiness the next working day, like what I'm in now. So the next time when you feel like drinking way too much, just drink at home. When you're drunk, there's no need to worry about driving home. Have a good one, responsibly !

What's the connection?

What's the connection between Detroit & Paris?
6320.910178592183 km

That's how far man are willing to travel to meet the woman of his life, only to be broken hearted cause she's too confused about what she wants and he's having tough time figuring out what she actually wants.

Of course.. they both speak different languages.

No title.. too lazy to think of one

Ok.. it's 1:48am. I just came back from Laundry, Curve after few drinks with friends. The place was packed. Packed with single ladies and guys waiting to get picked up by the latter. If you really make an observation like I did, you be amazed by the countless action going on at the bar.

American Heritage Dictionary - Cite This Source
flirt (flûrt) Pronunciation Key v. flirt·ed, flirt·ing, flirts v. intr.
To make playfully romantic or sexual overtures.
To deal playfully, triflingly, or superficially with: flirt with danger.
To move abruptly or jerkily.

American Heritage Dictionary - Cite This Source
stray (strā) Pronunciation Key intr.v. strayed, stray·ing, strays
1. To move away from a group, deviate from the correct course, or go beyond established limits.
2. To become lost.
3. To wander about without a destination or purpose; roam. See Synonyms at wander.
4. To follow a winding course; meander.
5. To deviate from a moral, proper, or right course; err.
6. To become diverted from a subject or train of thought; digress. See Synonyms at swerve.

Look at the differences between flirt and stray. How many people actually falls in the category of flirt and out of it, how many falls in the category of stray?

Human behaviour studies has been conducted centuries ago.. It is widely use by some of the elite goverment organization such as FBI. Not to say I'm expert in it... in fact I'm just a customer at a place like Laundry who is curious about all this.

Which category do you fall into? Now that you know the meaning of flirt and stray (hopefully), please be very careful when you drink. You don't want to regret at the first blink of the eye, do you?

A reunion was in the making... 15 years ago

I'm sure we all have our reunion parties @ gathering. Whether it's school or college reunion... it's sole purpose is to know how's everyone doing after all these years.

I attended one recently. In fact I organized one gathering last Wednesday. It's just a small gathering of high school friends, some I haven't met in 15 years. We used to hang out together (innocently, playing games teens @ 16 would be playing) and now we're all grown up at the age of 32. One of us was married 8 years back and now running her own advertising firm. The other is doing IT solution [freelance]. At least they got their own free time unlike some of us which are bound by standard working hours. One of the guy is doing sales for one of TNB supplier [talk about price hike in metals] and the other set-up an accounting firm with few of his friends. A doctor was supposed to join us but he was too busy cutting up body parts - just kidding :-D. As for me, I'm just a workslave for another foreign corporate investing in our beautiful Malaysian land. It was fun and we shall have it again... only next time the organizer will not be me. So if any of you guys & girls read this... please volunteer.

- gathering was at Laundry, the Curve

Wish to spend time not wishing for something you wish you have?

"Do you believe in fate? It's funny that sometimes I do, sometimes I don't. What do you expect me to say? I think you already know the answer, so why do you still want to ask me? I'm sorry I don't know what to say." - quote from an unknown source.

How often do we take things for granted? From the job we have, the house we live in, what we have, what we had experienced, what we are going through now and what we have plan for our future.

Why do we always spend so much time dreaming about things we wish to have but never spend enough time to appreciate things we already have?

What do you wish for this 2007 birthday?

Personal Sub-Super Computer

Net problem?

Ultimate Keyboard for Microsoft Windows

What to do with ur old PC

Who said geeks don't have fun?

Inspirational Phrases You Will Never Hear At Work...

1. There is no "I" in "teamwork." But there is in "management kiss-up."

2. If you do a good job and work hard, you may get a job with a better company someday.

3. The light at the end of the tunnel has been turned off due to budget cuts.

4. Doing a job RIGHT the first time gets the job done. Doing the job WRONG 14 times gives you job security.

5. If you think we're a bad company, you should see the competition.

6. Rome did not create a great empire by having meetings, they did it by killing all those who oppose them.

7. 2 days without a human rights violation.

8. Your job is STILL better than asking, "You want fries with that?"

9. If at first you don't succeed, try management.

10. Teamwork means never having to take all the blame yourself.

11. The beatings will continue until morale improves.

12. Pride, Commitment, Teamwork. Words we use to get you to work for free.

13. If at first you don't succeed, delegate it.

14. Plagiarism saves time.

15. Eagles may soar, but weasels don't get sucked into jet engines.

Beauty is Nothing without brains

Christmas already ... let it snow ... not!

This is how I would look like whenever I'm inside the production floor at my new working place. Looks like someone working in a nuclear reactor. Neat, huh? Can just blend in with production staff and my boss will never find me :)

Heroes ... Eyes by Rogue Waves

The latest hottest job in town

Cheapest USB Key

Anyone interested?

Windows XP USB version

Anyone fancy loading windows xp from usb thumbdrive?

Nice video...

Gong Xi Fa Cai

Have a wonderful new year with your family and friends...

CNY '07


CNY '06


CNY '05

Heroes ...

Don't u wish u have super power too ?

Concept Phone of the Year !

Behold...

Little fishes in a pond...

...beautiful fishes in a beautiful pond on a Beautiful day...

Some interesting movie in October '06

For all the wrestling fans out there... John Cena 1st Movie, I believe
http://themarinemovie.com/

And this one... not by Cena :)
http://nightatthemuseum.com/

How tall can a young bamboo grow?

Never measure it... but I think it's around 15ft. That's within less than 2 weeks time. The lower bamboo (with leaves) are about 1 ft taller than me.

Some of the funniest...

Two men are approaching each other on a sidewalk. Both are dragging their right foot as the walk. As they meet, one man looks at the other knowingly, points at his foot and says, "Vietnam, 1969."

The other hooks his thumb behind him says, "Dog shit, 20 feet back."


Fu, Bu and Chu immigrated to the USA from China. They decided to become American citizens, and "Americanize" their names.

Bu, called himself "Buck"
Chu called himself "Chuck"
Fu decided to return to China.


A journalist had done a story on gender roles in Kuwait several years before the Gulf War, and she noted then that women customarily walked about 10 feet behind their husbands.
She returned to Kuwait recently and observed that the men now walked several yards behind their wives.

She approached one of the women for an explanation. "This is marvelous,"said the journalist. "What enabled women here to achieve this reversal of roles?"

Replied the Kuwaiti woman: "Land mines."


Heroes \hee'-rhos\: What a guy in a boat does.


I bought a dog the other day...I named him Stay. It's fun to call him..."Come here, Stay! Come here, Stay!" He went insane. Now he just ignores me and keeps typing.


I'm still trying to figure out why kamikaze pilots wore helmets.


Did you ever notice when you blow in a dog's face he gets mad at you? But when you take him in a car he sticks his head out the window.


You have to stay in shape. My grandmother started walking five miles a day when she was 60. She's 97 today and we don't know where she is.


The reason most people play golf is to wear clothes they would not be caught dead in otherwise.


Anytime four New Yorkers get into a cab together without arguing, a bank robbery has just taken place.


A lady came up to me on the street and pointed at my suede jacket. You know a cow was murdered for that jacket'? She sneered. I replied in a psychotic tone, "I didn't know there were any witnesses. Now I'll have to kill you too!"


The Judge said to the defendant. "I thought I told you I never wanted to see you in here again."
"Your Honor," the criminal said, "that's what I tried to tell the police, but they wouldn't listen."


A young woman was pulled over for speeding. As the motorcycle officer walked to her car window, flipping open his ticket book, she said, "I bet you are going to sell me a ticket to the Highway Patrolmen's Ball."

He replied, "Highway patrolmen don't have balls."

There was a moment of silence while she smiled, and he realized what he'd just said. He then closed his book, got back on his motorcycle and left.


A man driving on the highway is pulled up by a police officer on a bike. The officer says, "Pull over", and the driver pulls over to the side of the road.

He says, "I'm sorry, officer, was I speeding?".

The police officer says, "No, mate, but your wife fell out of the car a mile back."

The man replies, "Oh, that explains it. I thought I was going deaf."


A lawyer was on vacation in a small farming town. While walking through the streets, a car was involved in an accident. As expected a large crowd gathered. Going by instinct, the lawyer was eager to get to the injured, but he couldn't get near the car. Being a clever sort, he started shouting loudly, "Let me through! Let me through! I am the son of the victim."

The crowd made way for him. Lying in front of the car was a donkey.


A bus load of lawyers were driving down a country road when all of a sudden the bus ran off the road and crashed into a tree in an old farmer's field.The old farmer after seeing what happened went over to investigate. He then proceeded to dig a hole and bury the lawyers.

A few days later, the local sheriff came out, saw the crashed bus, and then asked the old farmer, "Were they all dead?"

The old farmer replied, "Well, some of them said they weren't, but you know how them lawyers lie."